How to Write Your Own Wedding Ceremony Script (Step by Step)

Writing your own wedding ceremony script can feel overwhelming. Here’s a step-by-step guide to creating a meaningful, personal ceremony that feels true to you.

Introduction

More and more couples are writing their own wedding ceremony scripts. Whether you’re skipping a traditional celebrant, marrying abroad, or just want a personal touch, creating your own script lets you design a ceremony that feels authentic. Here’s how to do it, step by step.

Step 1: Decide the Tone

Do you want it heartfelt and romantic, light and funny, or a mix of both? Setting the tone first will help guide all the wording that follows.

Step 2: Choose Your Structure

Most ceremonies follow a flow:

• Welcome/introduction

• Readings or symbolic rituals (like a sand ceremony)

• Vows

• Ring exchange

• Pronouncement

You can keep this structure or adapt it however you like.

Step 3: Personalise the Words

This is where you can add details about your story, values, or promises. If you’re not a confident writer, start with simple sentences in your own voice — it doesn’t have to sound “perfect.”

Step 4: Add Any Rituals or Readings

Unity ceremonies (like candles, sand, wine) or favourite poems and readings make great additions.

Step 5: Practise Out Loud

Words read differently when spoken. Reading your script out loud helps you hear the rhythm and flow, so you can edit until it feels natural.

Writing your own wedding script isn’t about being poetic — it’s about creating a moment that feels like you. If you’d like some help, our DIY Ceremony Toolkit gives you a ready-made framework, editable templates, and prompts that take the guesswork out of writing. You’ll end up with a script that feels polished and personal, without hours of stress.

Check out the DIY Ceremony Toolkit here