How to Personalise Your Wedding Vows (Without Writing a Novel)
- hellomatramo
- Nov 4
- 3 min read
Writing your own vows sounds romantic, until you are staring at a blank page wondering how to sum up your entire relationship without turning it into a ten-minute monologue.
If that is you right now, take a breath. You do not need to be a writer or tell your whole life story to make your vows personal and meaningful. You just need a few key ingredients and a good filter for what not to include.
Here is how to make your vows sound like you (and not like an audiobook).
1. Keep a Simple Structure
Think of your vows as a little love story with three chapters:
The Past: how it all started or what first drew you to them
The Present: what you love about your relationship right now
The Future: what you promise for your life together
Even a few short sentences in each section can make your vows feel complete and intentional.
2. Choose One or Two Memories
You do not need a full highlight reel. Just pick one or two moments that feel like your relationship, the small, real ones that make your partner smile or tear up.
Maybe it is that disastrous first date, the time you got lost together, or how they make your morning coffee just the way you like it. Little details make a big impact.
3. Talk About Feelings, Not Just Facts
Vows are not a timeline. They are a window into how you feel.
Instead of “We have been together for seven years and travelled to six countries”, try something like:
“You make me feel safe, seen, and like I can be completely myself.”
That line alone says more than a travel diary ever could.
4. Say It How You Would Say It
You do not need to sound like Shakespeare (unless that is your vibe). Just write how you would actually speak to your partner.
If you would never say “my heart overflows with love”, do not force it. “You make every day better, even the boring ones” is just as romantic and a lot more real.
5. Make a Few Genuine Promises
Vows are, well, vows. But you do not need a list of twenty. Pick two or three promises that actually mean something to you.
They can be heartfelt:
“I promise to always choose us, even when it is hard.”Or funny:“I promise to let you have the last slice of pizza (sometimes).”
A mix of both is perfect.
6. Keep It Short
One to two minutes is ideal. Read them out loud and time yourself. They will probably sound longer than they look on paper. Your guests, and your partner, will thank you for keeping it punchy and heartfelt.
7. End with a Line That Feels Like You
Finish on something that feels final, such as a promise, a thank you, or a simple “this is it” moment.
“You are my favourite person and my favourite story.”“I cannot wait to keep choosing you.”“Let us do forever, our way.”
Short. Sweet. Totally you.
The Bottom Line
You do not have to write a novel to write something meaningful. The best vows are honest, personal, and sound like you on your best day.
Keep it simple. Keep it real. And if you need a little help pulling it all together, our DIY Wedding Script Kit will guide you through writing vows that sound personal, balanced, and perfectly yours, without the midnight panic typing.
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